Imagine a high and distant peak, surrounded by waves of fog.
When a painter starts to create, standing in front of an empty canvas, he begins from the idea of what he wants to create. He may have a very detailed plan or only an intuition, a sparkle, a feeling about how the painting should look like. But however vague or concrete, analytical or intuitive it may be, the idea of the painting that doesn't yet exists is there and without it, the painting could not be created.
Advices, opinions, ideas for spending time, gift ideas, business ideas, things to take from a place to the other in the personal and professional life, opinion of the “celebrities” and the extraordinary experiences lived by people around us - we are fed up with everything, but especially when we are fed with the better, more advantageous, more adequate opinion than ours. Others seem to know better which our good version is. Parents that make decisions for us, leaders that struggle to build the best team ever and who want things from us that we don’t necessarily want and haven't even thought about, our life partner who seems to love (us) better and in another way than we can, the friend who is the absolute lecturer when we have an issue. “Look at me to see how good I am!” - a message we receive abundantly in our life.
How loud is the too loud the noise around us?
Probably a doctor would tell us that the noise, the bustle, could leave us without our hearing and would offer statistics about decibels and our exposure/tolerance threshold. What if we found a filter, a wonder gadget that filters as much noise as possible and leaves more sound in our lives, regardless if we talk about our personal or professional lives?
We all accept the value of the positive feedback - it increases the self-esteem of the other and may generate positive behaviors through the Pygmalion effect; social experiments in schools (Rosenthal study) have showed that expectations and positive feedback generate in the other one the desire to be “in the image and likeness of”, to confirm the hypothesis of the coach, of the professor, of the manager. Your expectations from the person standing in front of you come to life, are updated by him, as Pygmalion created a statue that came to life, because he believed in it.
We all have desires, purposes, objectives... So, for the holidays, in (some of the) homes, not only Christmas trees and cakes are prepared, but New Year's resolutions as well.
Of course, it is always easier to increase the notoriety of the brand by spending big amounts of money, just as it is always easier to “sell” for free or to report higher profitability by eliminating all the costs and keeping the income. Unfortunately, none of the situations above is possible that often.
We discuss about communication and methods to relate in order to have as little conflicts and as much agreements as possible. We digress. We continue with self-esteem and ways in which we project in our relationships, including in those at the workplace, so many dragons that don't exist, and we create drama for past situations in which in reality we don't have closure, drama that we don’t even remember now.
A number of students were invited to a so-called experiment about the “perception of food” and they were told that they must consume a certain food, and the next day, they will be contacted to tell the sensations they remember from those tastes. Also, they were told not to eat at least three hours before the study.
Test yourself for a minute. From your commute, can you remeber the name of the dime store you pass each day, or the sequence of events at that motor accident you witnessed a few weeks ago? How aware are you of problems growing between your colleagues? And how about that intentional misspelling of „remember” a couple of sentences ago – did you notice that?